Grandmothers have shown themselves in this situation.
My mother and I were never really very close, in fact a few years ago I felt that I needed to set some real boundaries around my life and limit my exposure to the not-so-positive interactions that I would have with her. My mom was someone who desperately wanted my attention and my support and yet did everything she could to undermine and reject whatever I tried to do for her.
Then over 2 months ago, my mom broke her knee cap and had to have surgery and then go through rehabilitation in a convalescent facility. She only had me to be there for her, as I am the only relative or close friend nearby. At first, spending every evening with her in the hospital and then in the rehab facility was exhausting emotionally and physically and also a bit scary to me as I watched my mom deteriorate mentally as well.
For the last 2 months I have continued to see her at least an hr a day almost every day to be something constant in her life and a source of comfort to her. I never really felt resentment that I would have previously felt, but at first I guess I did have a sense of obligation. But over the last two months
of just being with her, not always even talking much, and her being with me without judgment or need to control, we have developed something we never
probably would have acquired before; a true love for each other and understanding. The logistics of helping her to heal and traveling back and forth with my busy schedule is still there and sometimes exhausting, but I am being filled in a different way and being healed myself in the process.
I feel the Grandmothers present in this situation as they have taught me how to just be with someone and through that how to truly love them. I believe my mom is experiencing the same.
Perhaps I also needed this lesson in order to better prepare me for something else that has presented itself. I have found a wonderful man with whom I am
deeply in love. I was unsure if I would be blessed with this opportunity in this lifetime and now it is present and we both feel equally in love and in joy. Again, I feel the Grandmothers' lessons so present for me. I am such a yang based person that in previous relationships not only did I bring in people to fulfill my need to have someone to take care of, but then felt that I always had to be on-top of the situation in all regards. I have never felt my divine feminine as much as I do now. After my last relationship I felt that my old patterns had been healed and knew that I needed someone who could be my equal and with whom I could also ask for help and with whom I could let go of my need to be the "master and commander". I have found that in this new love.
I can't tell you how much I feel the Grandmothers present in all of what is going on for me these days from the real dramas to the joys. Their lessons are not just in the easy stuff, they are in the hard stuff too.
Your Grandmother message to, "do the work for ourselves to express the truth of who we are" could not be more clear to me through these experiences. Sometimes we feel like we are sharing the message with others through our talking about the Grandmothers, and sometimes we actually share the work through a realization of who we truly are. We manifest that in the things that arise in our lives. Either way, everyone gets a healing and everyone gets the lesson.
Thank you for being on this journey with me and thank you Sharon for giving us all this opportunity.
Love,
Robin